“The problem with sexist, racist, homophobic, transphobic, classist, ableist, etc., remarks and ‘jokes’ is not that they’re offensive, but that by relying for their meaning on harmful cultural narratives about privileged and marginalized groups they reinforce those narratives, and the stronger those narratives are, the stronger the implicit biases with which people are indoctrinated are. That’s real harm, not just ‘offense.’”—
I think the poster in question was referring to Deuteronomy 22:5, "A woman must not wear men's clothing, nor a man wear women's clothing, for the LORD your God detests anyone who does this" (or variations thereupon).
Not to legitimatize it, but that's the verse that most people use to justify the idea that men and women should only wear clothing sanctioned for men or women. But as you mentioned, few people really follow those kinds of verses very closely - or, you know, at all - unless it serves their narrow-minded stance (like with Leviticus - most of the commands there are completely forgotten, but anti-gay Christians use it to invalidate homosexuality).
Ah, thank you! I am always amazed by when the Old Testament counts and when it doesn’t.
"It says not to eat pork or wear mixed fabrics!" - "oh, but we have a new covenant so that doesn’t matter!"
"It also says to hate gays" - "well, we NEED that one… it’s in the Bible!"
Following your amazing blog as a heterosexual Christian female who supports any and all forms of love. This is not a case of "love the sinner, hate the sin." I see no sin in two men or two women loving each other unconditionally, no matter how many times my religion tries to tell me it is sinful. Open heart, open mind!
Thank you for being you! I get so many wonderful messages from Christians, Muslims, Atheists, etc who feel as you do. It is always good to remember that religion =/= bigotry. Only the misuse of faith to justify hate is dangerous, not just the act of having faith.
This is a strange request but I value your opinion. If you have the time could you maybe read the speech I have written on my blog. It is for my college's student union elections and I want to make it the best I can so would appreciate some constructive critism and Don't worry if not. Thankyou :)
Haha, sure. Just send me the link and I’ll do what I can.
Hello favorite blog! I love everything you do and wouldn't go a day without reading your posts, and I was wondering if I could ask for some help. Since I'm sure you have far more followers than I do, I was wondering if you could publish that in Tuscaloosa, Alabama we are hosting our first PFLAG meeting at Canterbury Episcopal Chapel tomorrow night, March 24th, at 7PM. We have advertised pretty intensely in town, but I want to try and hit people in or around this city that might follow you here. I hope that there is time, and thank you again for all you do. The website for the church is www.canterburychapelua.org, if people need info or directions.
I feel the need to apologize for my sporadic postings as of late. Been very busy with RL and all. Thank you for this!
You don’t get to decide who other people are, or how they label themselves. To attempt to do so is to fundamentally disrespect another person’s autonomy; it’s telling them that their own wishes don’t matter, and that they belong in the little box you’ve designed for them.
Exodus International, the notorious “ex-gay” organization, has just released an iPhone app that, according to its website, is “designed to be a useful resource for men, women, parents, students, and ministry leaders.” The Exodus website further boasts that its app received a 4+ rating from Apple, meaning that it contains “no objectionable content.”
This is just showing a link that I put up on the resource page. It’s a good list of the rights and special challenges associated with LGBT couples looking for homes. If anyone needs this information you can find it in the page above for as long as the site is running.
Ann Coulter is coming to speak at the University of Wyoming. Her invitation is because I sucessfully sued UW to bring Bill Ayers after he was banned from campus by the UW administration. The former UW College Republicans president has admitted this is why she is coming. Ayers spoke on education reform and theory. Her topic? "Why Liberals Are Wrong About Everything".
Hence the fundraiser above. We all know Ann Coulter is a virulent homophobe. For every minute Ann Coulter speaks on the UW campus, you can pledge a specific amount to be distributed among three advocacy groups - GetEqual WY, The Matthew Shepard Foundation, and Equality for All. The more she speaks, the more good she does. As I wrote in the description for the page, we’re turning a lemon like Coulter into lemonade for GLBTQ and equality-based organizations.
Please visit the Facebook page above, and click like for more information. Further, you can get the link to pledge your donation there (we don’t collect your financial information) or you can click here for the form.
And yes, we took the title of the page from Ween’s “The Rainbow”.
Please consider a donation to help Japan if you haven’t already. I have friends and loved ones over there now and although all are alive and accounted for this tragedy still lays heavy on my heart. I know I’m so far from being alone. So many of us feel it even if you don’t know anyone affected.
International Medical Corps is just one group I keep seeing that gives over 90% of the money it takes in directly to the people in the affected areas. Whatever you can give to whatever organization you trust the most is beneficial.
"Wow, that is nuts," said student Jeremy Golliver, who claimed he knew gay rights was a struggle "like, a hundred years ago" but didn’t realize it lasted so long. "It’s really embarrassing, when you think about it. Just the fact that people in this century were actually saying things like, ‘No, gays should not be allowed to marry,’ and were getting all up in arms about it, as if homosexuals weren’t full citizens or something. It’s insane."
Those are the small issues. Here’s the big issue: Mars Needs Moms is an incredibly anti-gay film. That’s not a joke. Seriously. Let me explain…
The reason Mars actually needs moms is that all the female martians are busy being leaders, soldiers and politicians. Because of this, they are apparently terrible mothers, because no woman can be in a position of power and possess maternal instincts. (There’s a nanny-bot and some memory-erasing/murder of humans involved, but it’s weird and boring and overall basically unimportant.) The men are no help, because they all live in a huddle together painting themselves in bright flamboyant colors and dancing and hugging all the time. (Seriously.) The men all live together because the women are led by an old angry lady who believes that women are stronger, and we should do away with all men. Then the movie goes out of its way to show that before Butchy McLes-alien took over, all children were raised by a man and a woman. Just like the Martian bible says it should be! … I kept thinking that I was reading too much into the film (impossible), but when Ke tells the Martians that they were meant to be raised by two parents, because that’s the only way to feel love, I was convinced. And angered.
It’s not often in this line of work that I get to write pieces that really matter, so I want to make the most of this. Mars Needs Moms isn’t just offensive to gays, it’s offensive to anyone who has a non-structuralist family. The overall message of the film is “Unless you’re raised by one Mom AND one Dad, then you’re wrong.” Single parent? Wrong. Living with other relatives? Wrong. The film even makes sure we know that Milo has a Dad, although he serves no other purpose than letting us know that Milo is in a “proper family.” Hell, there’s even an inter-species romance between Gribble and Ke, since apparently that’s okay, as long as it’s not gay.
Too often we tell ourselves that if a movie is made for kids, we shouldn’t analyze it too hard, and that is insane. We should take a closer look at what is designed to entertain our children than anything else. Children are impressionable, and what they see in their programming leaves a mark on their development whether we want to admit it or not. If you want to show your children that love, just like bravery and every other emotion, takes all forms, take them to see Rango again. At least that won’t make them look at their friends’ families (or their own) and think that they’re inherently flawed. However, if you can tell me that you want to send the message to your children that there’s only one way a kid can be loved, then by all means take them to see Mars Needs Moms, and remind me not to let my future offspring play with yours.
Side note: I was wondering going in if Mars Needs Moms was going to have any reference to Elton John’s Rocketman. I now understand why there isn’t.
“The average life span of a transgendered person is twenty-three years. The statistic is shocking, until it begins to make sense. Gender non-conformists face routine exclusion and violence. Transgendered people are disproportionately poor, homeless, and incarcerated. Many of the systems and facilities intended to help low-income people are sex-segregated and thereby alienate those who don’t comply with state-imposed categories. A trans woman may not be able to secure a bed in a homeless shelter, for example. Spade writes that just as the feminist movement tended to “focus on gender-universalized white women’s experience as ‘women’s experience,’” the lesbian- and gay-rights movement has focused primarily on a white, middle-class politic, centered on marriage and mainstream social mores.”—
“No, I don’t. I’m very self-sufficient. I like my own space. I mean, why does everybody need to be with somebody? I don’t understand that. I really don’t. You know, somebody doesn’t complete you.”—Diane Warren, answering whether she regrets not having a partner (via asexyquotes)